Dee Vickery: OTBPM Info
Abigail's House - December 9, 2015
ONE WILD RIDE!
The cry of a desperate professional woman…
“Please! You’ve got to help me! I’m afraid he’s going to kill me!”
The phone call from a dad who was losing hope…“Our son needs help! He’s 11 yrs. old. He gets so angry, he smashes everything up, and hurts himself and his mom, then doesn’t remember any of it! We’ve taken him to Psychologists and Counselors. He’s on all kinds of meds for violent outbursts, but nothing has helped. The violent behavior seems to be escalating, and he refuses to go to anymore counselors. We don’t know what to do anymore! Someone said you might could help us…can you help us…will you try? He said he would come talk to you…we told him you were a cowgirl and had a horse.”
My office door opens, there stands a young man in his 30’s with a look of desperation yet I see a twinge of hope…"Are you Dee Vickery? A friend said you could help me. I need help! I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve messed up so many times, my wife won’t let me see my little girls. She doesn’t believe that I’m not doing meth anymore! What do I do?”
The phone rings. A young woman is trying to talk but is mostly crying…“I’ve got a teenage son who is so angry. He gets in fights all the time at school! Now I’m having to put him in a different school in another town. He’s mean to his younger brothers and threatens to hit his stepdad. My son, when he was younger, witnessed his real dad hitting me. My son, even as a small child, would try to shield me, to protect me, but his dad would throw him across the room. I finally divorced his dad and married a very kind man. I just don’t know what to do anymore! He refuses to go to anymore counselors. But I told him about you, that you were cool. He said he’d come and talk to you. Will you please see him?”
Over the past several years I’ve tried to help many broken, desperate folks…men, women, and even kids. The above accounts are some of the success stories. It’s ones like them that has kept me from just giving up. Because just as many stories weren’t success stories, for one reason or another. It’s those stories, those folks that have kept me on my face crying out to God for answers!
Back in the 80’s and 90’s I broke and trained horses. Each time an owner brought their horse to me (most of them already with problems), I would go to the Father and ask for wisdom and a strategy for that particular horse (just like humans, each horse was an individual, with their own personalities, etc). I would ask the Lord to show me how to train this horse so it would be a blessing to its owner. And He always did. (I do the same thing with the humans God brings to me that need help.)
Each time one of the precious, desperate people would leave my office, after weeks, even months of ministry, and go right back into whatever destructive lifestyle or behavior that they had sought deliverance from, I became more and more frustrated, even angry at times. I knew God wanted them all healed, set free to fulfill the awesome destiny He had for them.
What was wrong? Why was I able to help some and not others? Oh, I know not everyone can be helped or there wouldn’t be a Hell, but I knew there were some that should’ve gotten their breakthrough. What was I missing? And why were/are there so many hurting people? It seems hurt, disappointment, hopelessness, and resignation, is no respecter of persons.
In the beginning my ministry was just to victims of domestic violence (even the abuser is a victim…). Then I started getting calls from folks with all kinds of problems from all walks of life and all ages! Folks frustrated, seemingly stuck.
I began to realize there was a common denominator. There had to be…but what was it?
THE PARADIGM SHIFT
Once it became clear to me that God was expanding this ministry to reach out to more than just those affected by domestic violence, the Mission Statement didn’t fit anymore. The name Off the Beaten Path Ministries didn’t even work anymore. It wasn’t just about domestic violence! THEN WHAT WAS IT ABOUT??
You see, when God gave me a vision back in ’95 of a place for women just like me, women who were trapped in an abusive relationship but had no place to go, I thought the vision WAS my mandate, but it was like the picture on the puzzle box. God said, ‘you thought the vision was the whole puzzle, but it was just one piece of the puzzle.’
That’s when He straightened me out on this whole thing. I had been like a race horse that dumped his jockey in the gate and raced on down the track without the rider. I don’t know if you’ve actually ever seen that happen, but I have. It’s pretty comical. The horse is going top speed toward the finish line but he’s all over the track! You may not be able to get the connection of the race horse without a jockey and my vision but NOW it makes perfect sense to me…I was the horse! I’ll just let you think on that for a while.
That’s when the paradigm shift happened! Off the Beaten Path Ministries, which is our outreach to folks affected by domestic violence, is just one outreach of Dee Vickery Ministries, Inc.
We have several outreaches under the umbrella of DVM, but each one is about helping folks get healed, restored and made whole in order to realize their God ordained destiny.
We invest in people’s lives through:
♥Teaching the Word of God at House Churches.
♥ Holding concerts and making my CD’s available.
♥ Love Encounters held in beautiful retreat facilities all over Texas, sponsored by DVM. These women, coming from all walks of life, spend a weekend where they experience an encounter with the Lover of their souls, Jesus Christ, that they never knew possible this side of Heaven. As a result not one woman leaves untouched and unchanged.
♥Traveling and preaching the message of God’s desire for His will to be done on earth as it is in Heaven.
♥One on one ministry to those who call or stop by my office needing help.
♥Personal ministry, whether it’s responding to a call at 10:30 at night to come quick, and staying until 1:00 in the morning loving a family through a crisis, or praying an addict through withdrawals all night, so they can go to the drug rehab the next day.
It’s the heart and passion of DVM and the heart of the Father to see folks healed and set free to experience the “life and life more abundantly” that Jesus talks about.
It never ceases to amaze and sadden me at just how many folk, Christian and non-Christian, are hurting because of one reason or another. Some have buried that hurt so deep that no one would ever guess that their hurting, others not so much. But either way just like toxic waste, buried or not, sooner or later it will work its way to the surface of their lives. The outcome is never good.
That’s exactly what happens in abusive situations. Hurting people hurt people. Which is why our goal, to help people get healed from those hurts, was to have a place where they could come and live while going through a two year restoration program. Then I realized victims of domestic violence weren’t the only ones who needed a place to heal and be restored.
We still have that goal, that passion for The Healing Place, but in the meantime, until that becomes a reality so many are in need of help, right now. That’s when the Father began to reveal His plan.
IT ALL BEGINS WITH ONE ROOM
After multiplied hours spent with individuals with varying problems I finally realized, that although the problems may manifest differently in those lives, the common denominator in each individual was they were living under a “false identity”. They didn’t know who they really were. Their identities were based on names they were called when they were children, failures in relationships, or in businesses, etc. They just didn’t know who they really were, who God said they were. The Bible says as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. So they saw themselves as failures or damaged goods, and proved it with their behavior.
I now realized if I could just spend some quality time with some of these individuals, helping them see that their behavior and their inability to get free of the hurt in their heart was coming out of how they saw themselves, then I could help them change their identity to see themselves as God sees them. He sees them having great worth and value, created in His Image and after His likeness, having nothing to do with their behavior.
For me to be able to do that I would need a place where the women (accommodations for only women at this time) could come and stay for a few days. That’s when I saw it! I sensed in my heart God saying, ‘What do you have in your hand?’ I remembered in Ex. 4:2 Moses needed to prove something to some folks but he didn’t know how and God said, ‘What do you have in your hand?’ What Moses had right then, God would use to get the job done. God was saying to me what you have right now, I’ll use to accomplish what needs to be done.
Even though there was still a great need for a long term residential healing place, it’s a long ways from a vision to the fulfilment of that vision. But, there were some whose healing could begin right now!
What I had in my hand, that which was available right now, was a room in my home. So I am in the process of getting that room, which is to be called The Alabaster Room, ready to receive “guests” who are ready to find out who they really are and encounter the Healer of the broken hearted. Some may just be in desperate need of a time of restoration and refreshing. A quiet place to just be. It’s amazing what God can do in just a few days.
So the healing, the restoration will begin in a room: The Alabaster Room.
It’s a beginning of fulfilling the desire to have a place for broken people to come and be healed.
I know I have crammed a lot in this one little newsletter, and sometimes it may have the appearance of just rambling. But if you could see into my heart, you would see that what I did share doesn’t begin to express the passion I have to help people.
You now have a small picture of Dee Vickery Ministries and what we have done, what we are doing and what we will be doing.
The Bible says in Habakkuk 2:2 “Write the vision, make it plain, so that he that passes by may read it and run with it.”
That’s what I’ve done in part with this newsletter. There are so many hurting people. Dee Vickery Ministries, Inc. is here for just those folks.
If you would like more information just contact us at (210) 355-8023.
The Vision - February 8, 2008
Off the Beaten Path Ministries “ For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope & a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 OFF THE BEATEN PATH MINISTRIES, INC. MENTORING & RESTORATION PROGRAM Off the Beaten Path Ministries, Inc. is a Christ-centered, 501c3 non-profit organization. So many people are imprisoned by traumatic events from their past. Out of those traumatic facts come wrong beliefs. Out of those wrong beliefs come wrong behaviors. Whether that be manifested as drug & alcohol abuse, sexual abuse or any other form or destructive behavior. These traumatic facts also set people up to be abused. This mentoring program is geared first of all toward giving people hope that have lost all hope. There is always hope in Christ! Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire is fulfilled, it is a tree of life.” Then I start them on a program of changing their wrong beliefs, changing their identity (they need to have their identity in Christ not their past), which in turn changes their behaviors. I moved to my present location the first part of July 2007. By August 2007 I began, here in my home, seeing individuals that are trapped in violent retationships or those who continue to return to a violent relationship. I see, on an average, 4 to 5 clients a month. Some of those are in ongoing mentoring. Others just need encouragement & direction. We are now in our office which is wonderful! Most of the individuals (men/women) I see cannot afford to pay for the program; therefore they can enter the program at no cost to them. So we need ministry partners & sponsors who want to be a part of what the Lord is doing to reach the hurting people. I have an annual ministry budget at this current location of approximately $60,000.00. This ministry has a two-part goal: Abigail's House which will be the 90 day temporary shelter for victims of family violence. The part two of that goal is The Healing Place which will be a long-term transitional-housing program where victims of family violence would live on site & enter an intensive restoration, healing & educational program. It’s my desire to partner with Pastors, community leaders, as well as anyone else in the hill country area that share a concern for those in destructive relationships. If you know anyone that might benefit from a program such as this one please let me know. I want to help. We are not underwritten by any specific church or organization, therefore we depend on the generous tax deductible donations of individuals or organizations that would like to become partners with us to bring healing to hurting & broken people. You may email me: firstname.lastname@example.org. PROJECTED OTBPM BUDGET to purchase house and one year expenses: SPONSORSHIPS NEEDED Abigail's House: $150,000.00 The Healing Place: $650,000.00 (to purchase and set up facility plus operaing expenses for one year)